Femininity starts in the mind. It’s what you read, what you listen to, what you think, how you respond, and who you surround yourself with. These qualities determine your mindset. As a feminine woman, your ultimate goal should be to protect your mindset by any means necessary. When evolving into a high-value woman, the sad reality is that some may not be ready to change or grow with you. The even more unfortunate part is it could very well be your closest friends.
Friendships are like any other relationship. You develop girlfriends based on compatibility, interests, morals, values, and the list goes on. Yes, you don’t have to share the exact same views; however, when your views are drastically different, sadly, things can change. Ladies, we are a product of the company we keep, choices, and decisions we make. If your friends are bringing you away from your new goals and priorities, it may be time to ask yourself, “Am I outgrowing my friend?”
“I love my husband, but it is nothing like a conversation with a woman that understands you. I grow so much from those conversations.”Beyonce
The evolution of womanhood can cause you to want more out of your friends. Your old girlfriends may only understand the OLD you. You’re evolving, hence being a part of this community. You have the right to grow and change in life. Change is necessary. Women can change for many reasons such as school, age, relationship status, family, career, or new location.
The bottom line is, you shouldn’t feel guilty for feeling like you’re outgrowing a friendship that you once felt was meant to last a lifetime. If your surrounding friends don’t represent the woman you want to become, it is okay to move in a different direction or change the narrative. No one is to blame or wrong. This can actually be healthy. Outgrowing a friendship actually shows that you aren’t stagnant or content.
Here are 5 Signs You’ve Outgrown Your Friend
- You have conflicting priorities. They love gossiping about negative reality shows, talking about how they got drunk on the weekends at the club, or itching to go to a party that is played out without substance. Still, you’d rather spend time focusing on improving yourself, joining a book club, or finding creative ways to enrich your mind or surroundings. Time is of the essence, and you see every conversation a waste or against your core values.
- They don’t organically support or understand your ideas, plans, goals, or values. One of the most important reasons why we have girlfriends is because of support. If you don’t share an interest in each other and feel you’re just listening to “be a friend,” it may be a sign you’re outgrowing. Adult friendships have to be equally yoked in some ways. If they simply don’t understand important things you value, why and how are you friends?
- Your conversations are merely to reminisce and are dead silent at times. You went from having a lot to say to nothing at all. Your friendship is starting to feel forced and awkward. If you’re struggling to find things to talk about, it could sign that the bond is hitting a dead-end. It’s nice to reminisce every now and then; however, if that’s the majority of what your conversation is about, you’re probably no longer evolving together.
- You’re simply incompatible. You once bonded over things that you currently don’t care to bond over. She connects with people you wouldn’t associate with and participates in activities that you aren’t comfortable with. This can cause you to naturally separate. Compatibility brings friendships together. You can be a physical friend, but it may be difficult to understand that your friendship is slowly fading.
- You don’t feel like yourself when you are with her. You always feel like you can’t share how you truly feel or act like yourself in fear of making her feel uncomfortable. If surrounding yourself with her is negatively bringing you away from your true self, then it’s a sign to let go.
Ladies, I know it’s tough when on the journey of womanhood, but we have to protect our surroundings. If any of those 5 signs rang a bell, it’s time to evaluate your friendships. Your girlfriend may very well be a great person. Just because you’re drifting apart, doesn’t mean anyone did anything wrong. There’s no need to apologize because this is natural. Simply mentally acknowledge it and move forward.